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Tell it Like it Is

"However, the biggest hurdle is that many societies don’t recognise young people as sexual beings. Without acknowledging the fact that people have sex at all ages, and often before marriage, we are doing a huge disservice to those very people we are trying to provide quality services to."
— 2 years ago with 374 notes
#sexual health  #youth  #reproductive rights  #sexuality  #sex education 
"Our categories are important. We cannot organize a social life, a political movement, or our individual identities and desires without them. The fact that categories invariably leak and can never contain all the relevant “existing things” does not render them useless, only limited. Categories like “woman,” “butch,” “lesbian,” or “transsexual” are all imperfect, historical, temporary, and arbitrary. We use them, and they use us. We use them to construct meaningful lives, and they mold us into historically specific forms of personhood. Instead of fighting for immaculate classifications and impenetrable boundaries, let us strive to maintain a community that understands diversity as a gift, sees anomalies as precious, and treats all basic principles with a hefty dose of skepticism."

Gayle Rubin (via adayinthelesbianlife)

"Let us strive to maintain a community that understands diversity as a gift, sees anomalies as precious, and treats all basic principles with a hefty dose of skepticism."

(via adayinthelesbianlife)

— 2 years ago with 6 notes
#sexuality  #gayle rubin  #identity  #lgbtq  #boundaries 
"Some people say homosexuality is a sin. It’s not. God is perfectly cool with it, God feels the exact same way about homosexuality that God feels about heterosexuality. Now you might say, ‘Whoa, slow down. You move too fast. How could you have the audacity, the temerity, to speak on behalf of God?’ Exactly, that’s an excellent point and I pray that you remember it."
Ted Alexandro (via lucifelle)

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— 2 years ago with 3464 notes
#sexuality  #sin  #god  #lgbtq  #ted alexandro 
"I love the confidence, and if you throw in the occasional moment of aw-shucks bashfulness, that melts me to my core. I love the smirk. But that confidence thing, that phantom butch phallus thing – that slays me. And I’m not just talking about sexual head space; I’m talking about a particular kind of masculine energy residing in a female mind and body, and the way that turns traditional conceptions of what it means to be a man or a woman upside down. I’m talking about the underlying strength of character required to live and present as a butch woman not only in mainstream society, but also in a gay community that all too often fails to appreciate them. I’m talking about the power that comes with unabashedly just being who you are, even when it’s not the popular thing to do."
— 2 years ago with 25 notes
#butch  #sexuality  #queer  #female masculinity  #lgbtq  #masculinity 
"There are tons of people– male people, even!– who don’t have sex. […] I know this is bizarre to all those “90% of men masturbate and 10% of men are lying” people out there, the “men evolved to be promiscuous” people, the “men naturally have high sex drives” people. But men – people – are different. If you don’t want to have sex, you shouldn’t have sex. That doesn’t make you prudish or uncool, broken or sick, sad or pathetic or wrong. It makes you someone who’s making the right life choice for you at that very moment."
— 2 years ago with 3925 notes
#sex  #sexuality  #quote  #asexual 

When the Disney Channel was pressed about whether they would address gay relationships on their shows, Gary Marsh, the president of Disney Channel worldwide said, “We don’t deal with sexuality on the Disney Channel in general. That’s just sort of not where our audience’s head’s at. They’re really a pre-sexual audience, for the most part, and so sexuality is not how we look to tell any kind of stories.”

What Disney Channel doesn’t realize is that by taking no stance on what they consider sexuality, they are in fact taking a stance. Disney is largely heteronormative in its portrayal of relationships, with many shows centering on them. While relationships between boys and girls become increasingly sexualized, (without the actual sex) couples of the same sex are not afforded the same treatment.

Television often promotes certain standards of sexuality and on these kid’s shows it is not acceptable to have feelings for someone of the same sex. If there are possible gay characters, there is a denial that the relationships these characters undergo or experience are sexual in any way.


Disney Channel Refuses to Stray from Stereotypes | SPARK a Movement (via sparkamovement)

Disney, how can you say you don’t deal with sexuality when pretty much every show you has has either someone in a relationship or someone crushing on someone? You do realize “straight” is a sexuality right?

(via fuckyeahsexeducation)

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— 2 years ago with 190 notes
#sexuality  #heteronormativity  #heterosexuality  #lgbtq  #media 
Should Parents Allow Teens to Have Sex in Their Homes?

It’s an unwritten rule in America that teens don’t discuss their sex lives with their parents — except, perhaps, to obtain contraception — and that they don’t invite their boyfriends or girlfriends to sleep over in their rooms, at least when mom and dad are at home. Yet in Holland, two-thirds of Dutch teenagers ages 15 to 17 in committed relationships reported in a national survey that their parents allow their significant other to spend the night in their bedrooms, and girls were just as likely as boys to gain this permission.

“American parents may feel like it’s just wrong to have these sleepovers, that they’re condoning sex,” said Amy Schalet, an assistant professor of sociology at University of Massachusetts, Amherst. “But there’s a benefit to creating an environment in which teens can truly feel comfortable in admitting to their parents that they’re experiencing sexuality” and for parents to provide them a safe place to engage in it.

As Schalet explained, “If it doesn’t happen at home, it will probably happen in a public place that’s unsafe.”

In her new book Not Under My Roof, Schalet calls attention to what she considers to be an antiquated American view of teen sexuality: a don’t ask, don’t tell approach that doesn’t stray too far beyond providing teens with an abstinence lecture or grudgingly a visit to the doctor to get a pill prescription.

After interviewing nearly 150 white, middle-class Dutch and American teens and their parents, Schalet, who was raised in Holland, came to the conclusion that the Dutch have a better approach towards dealing with teenage sex. “Teens there benefit from having an environment in which they can truly feel comfortable admitting to their parents that they’re beginning to experience sexuality,” she explained.

And to the Dutch, sexuality isn’t just defined as intercourse but kissing in middle school, as well as fondling and oral sex at older ages. The emphasis, she added, is on pleasure and getting teens to understand their own desires.

That’s a concept rarely explored in American sexual education classes. It’s so rare, in fact, that the New York Times magazine ran a cover story last Sunday on one sex-ed teacher’s efforts to teach teens at a private Philadelphia prep school about orgasms, masturbation, and why sex acts shouldn’t be compared to a baseball game. “If you’re playing baseball, you can’t just say, ‘I’m really happy at second base,’” said the teacher Al Vernacchio, in a quote from the piece.

Dutch parents have been educating their teens on these concepts since the sexual revolution, according to Schalet, though they emphasize that sex should only spring from committed, loving relationships — not hookups. “It’s never just pure sex, but sex within a relationship.”

And there’s no worry that young teens in passionate love will leap into early marriages before they’re ready — a notion that propels American parents to urge their teens not to have serious relationships in high school and college. “Very few Dutch parents think that teens will marry the first person they fall in love with,” she said.

They’re comfortable with the idea that their kids may be ready to have sex but not start a family. As a result, they make sure their teens adequately protect themselves from pregnancy.

The statistics speak for themselves: American teenage girls have more than four times the pregnancy rate of their Dutch counterparts: 61 per 1,000 in the US compared to 14 per 1,000 in Holland. They also have a higher rate of abortions and a higher rate of sexually transmitted diseases — all tied to their lower rate of condom and oral contraceptive use.

“A lot of American girls were willing to admit that sex was a big part of their lives but that they feared being a big disappointment to their parents if they told them that,” said Schalet. “They may be quite close to their parents but this can’t be part of the closeness and that puts them at a disadvantage.”

— 2 years ago with 136 notes
#America  #Holland  #sex education  #sex positivity  #sexuality  #teenagers  #feminism  #Boston Globe 
"LGBT people are six times more likely to attempt suicide than normal people."

A lecture on suicide prevention at UCLA. (via microaggressions)

What scares me is that as a queer woman I’m so familiar with the statistic (in relation to heterosexual people) that I had to look at the notes to figure out what was wrong with the sentence.  Oh heteronormativity.

(Source: microaggressions)

— 2 years ago with 110 notes


When I search on Google for “LGBTQ” and it corrects my search as “LGBT”.

(Source: microaggressions)

— 3 years ago with 111 notes
#sexuality  #lgbtq 


One of the bullet points in my sister’s 7th grade Sex Ed packet: “Students will be taught the benefits of a monogamous, heterosexual marriage.” Arizona, 2010. Made me feel annoyed, disappointed.

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— 3 years ago with 49 notes